Getting back to kicking!

ah, it is difficult and i sympathize. i suppose the best way is to view the "accident" as an injury you obatined from your sport. it just so happened you lost. if it was a "real" match would you stop competeing because you lost with a bit of pain? I know your pride is dented but if you love it and are good at it - go back to it SLOWLY. find our love of it again.ask yourself whet you miss and is it worth missing out on?

poeple are in this world and don't understand the why's and how's for the reason other people choose to do things. it's lame, but they are probably jealous. you found something you love and it isnt them or their ideals.

Injuries are just another challange and should be treated as such, I use the injury down time as a productive time researching my injury and it's management. I am exceedingly lucky that I have only ever really had two decent injuries none resulting from sport, the first injury was caused sneezing getting out of bed, (now that's embarrasing) I just wish I had done it falling of my mountain bike or missing a lift in the gym, but no sneezing. The bigger the challange the greater the satisfaction when you beat it. I have found out that I have a 6th lumbar vertabre and an unfused sacrum and a very severe prolasped disc I was told I would have major problems by my consultant, he was stunned by my progress last time he saw me and has now told me I can train again. He asked me what my secret was I told him it was mind over matter, I did'nt mind, he did'nt matter at which he promptly threw me out of his office. He did me the biggest favour by telling me that I would not be able to do things. I cannot comment on your injury not enough information, but if I was in your shoes I would learn as much as I can about my injury, set up my rehab programme get myself match fit, do your gradings and have a slight smile on your face when you see this turkey of a colleague of yours and then when you are fit enough take him down the do jo and kick his ass (all in the name of sport of course), of course I do not condone any violence in any way shape or form (honest). Good luck John Murphy [/b]

Thank you for your kind words, you speak like real warriors! I have talked to other's but they don't do much in the way of actvity. It is hard since I feel I let my Sensi down by not turning up and the fact that I was challenged when I should have been wise enough to just laugh and go "I will loose against you".

Thank you so much though I feel much better!

Tansy

Tansy,

I, like you, love TKD :D . I started about 8-1/2 years ago (wish I would have "found it" sooner). Oh well, better late than never. Anyway, your "ASSociate" was just that, which was fueled by too much alcohol and testosterone (ugly mixture) :D . Unfortunately, sometimes these so-called "friends" will try and test your skills.

From what I gathered from your initial post was that your experience in Taekwondo at the time of this incident was only about 9 months (give or take). From my own limited (8+ years) in TKD, I have learned not to even give a verbal "answer" - only a wry smile - which they can take any way that want. Yes, I have had the occasional "well, I guess you could kick my a$$ets" comment, to which I usually reply, "only if I have to" - along with the wry smile. I never get a reply back.

You should not be embarrassed. Think of it as a learning experience. Do your prescribed exercises. Since I had knee surgery last year due to a training incident, may I suggest one more for you. If you already don't use those "rubber band-type" exercise peices - purchase them - they usually come in several "resistance strengths". Lie on your stomach with the bands around your ankles and with your foot flexed, try to bring your heel to your "rear". This will help strengthen your hamstrings, which women especially need anyway, helping to strengthen your knees. Do both legs maybe 10-12 reps and hold on the last one for a count of 12. When the lighter band is too easy, say at around 15 reps - move up to a stronger resistance. I started using these approximately 1-2 weeks after surgery and continue to use them. Everyone heals differently - so go at your own speed and ask your Dr. before using them.

Go back to class!!! (Go slowly at first.) You WILL get back to 100% - both physically and mentally. Since I don't know what rank you hold (really doesn't matter - just curious) - don't even bother bringing up the subject of TKD with your ASSociate - none of his business. Do not allow him to "convince" you that TKD is "unrealistic" (ALL martial arts are "realistic" in their own distinctive way) and that it wasn't his fault. It most definitely was his fault.

By the way, let's just say the tables were turned and, in fact, YOU were the one to injure him because he went after you and you countered "realistically". He sounds like the type who would have hauled you into court for battery.

Sorry this is soooo long - but it just irks me :evil: to no end when this ASSociate has made you feel this way. Pick yourself up - dust yourself off - continue to train hard (but smart :D ) and if there's ever a "next time" . . . . . . just wryly smile :? .

Feel free to e-mail me.

NancyP

Thanks Nancy

I was very much going to drop it because I thought that what I was doing was never going to help me. The guy is annoying and still is towards me, I am going to a welfare officer which is part of my company to get myself moved from my department!
I was terriable when I got back, I couldn't do a thing I just remembered how the class performed the spin kick and as I did I collapsed and saw pink dots!!! I was so scared I was about to pass out again, its even harder trying to explain the situation in English to Korean students!
My teacher as was like pleased when I got up and bowed but asked me why I went away for so long so I lied and said I had fallen on my knee down some stairs because I thought that if I said someone decided that I needed a lesson in fighting, he would have been a bit annoyed.
It was all going through my mind I had fellow students helping me and this guy annoying me so I had stop so that I could think! :cry:

What grade are you if you have been doing it for quite a few years I assume your pretty high up!...I'm only on Green belt junior...

Tansy

Tansy,

Don't drop it (and I believe you mean TKD). Keep with it - continue to strengthen your knees (and hamstrings). Keep going to class!!! Remember, your instructor and fellow students are there to help you - don't give up on yourself or them.

I'm glad you are taking action to keep away from this guy - sounds like he's nothing but trouble. If your instructor, or any of the other students, asks what happened - just tell them you injured your knee - period. No need to give details and that you and your doctor are working to get it back to 100%. Hopefully they will try and work with you around your injury until YOU, and the doctor, of course, feel you are ready to give 110%. Until then, go slow and don't try to do anything to re-injure it. Give it time to heal.

I am a 1st Dan, recently tested for 2nd - and will ALWAYS be a student - as long as I'm able to :D. Don't say "only a green belt junior" - leave out the "only". You are further along in your martial arts career than most people will ever get to - most don't even start! You had the courage to start. Keep going - don't look back!

Believe me, there were days when I thought to myself "What the heck am I doing?" But I don't regret one "gasping for breath" minute, bruise, injury or sore muscle. Like I said, wish I would have "found it" 30+ years ago. (I started at age 35 - so you do the math.) And yes, I would do it all over again - so far, it's been worth the trip.

Hang in there!

Nancy

Wow your like pretty high up! congratulations and I hope you get 2nd! most of the guys are 4th Dahn but they did it in the army as ya ment to in Korea. There is little english girl TKD players out there and I was the only one compeating at an open champions!
Though I have forgtten pattern 2!!! I remember 1 and 3!

What federation you joined to or what is the name of your club? and what was it like for you first time round? I was really impressed it was like watching a Bruce Lee movie live!

I started when I was 22 (feels like a long time ago) and I am about 24 now but I find that the side kicks have improved a little bit from various work out vids!

Tansy 8)

Tansy,

Like I said earlier, I love TKD, and will go as far as I'm able and eventually teach.

You're human - we all forget every now and then :lol: The important thing to remember, even at tournaments, is to have fun. Remember, on any given day, anybody can win - or lose. Yes, I remember my first tournament - it was great! They still are - just have fun!

You will notice that as you keep training - everything gets better and easier :D . As with anything, practice, practice, practice.

Actually, my 13 year-old daughter trains with me. We train WTF-style and received our black belt certificates through the Kukkiwon in Korea.

Our test for our 1st Dan was 6 hours long - and it was just the 2 of us! We needed to know every blocking and kicking technique, all Taeguk forms, including Koryo. Then we each had to pick one form and not only perform it, but to explain each movement in Korean (including "direction"). We each had to do a total of 30 self-defense techniques. In addition we each had to break 30 boards (15 our techniques, 15 our master's). We then had to perform a 2-3 minute "fight scene" with another student "attacking". Oh, and sparring - not only each other (that was the hard part), but with multiple "attackers". In between all this, and I'm sure I'm forgetting some things, we had to do push-ups, sit-ups, etc. We also had to write an essay on the history of TKD. Would I do it again? Absolutely!

How's your knee been feeling? Keeping up with your exercises? I hope so. Take care and have a great weekend! I'll be "talking" to you next week.

Nancy

Tansy

I am sorry for your injury. Karate is not about fighting, it is about teaching yourself control. Control of the mind and body. Control of yourself and others. Control of all situations and their out comes. You have mentioned that there was a considerable amount of drinking at your gathering. I can only hope that you were responsible, and not drinking. If you were the alchohol, not your work associate, may have been your enemy. As a green belt you do not "know" karate you are simply a student of karate, you do not possess any special skills, your ego was bruised because you assumed you did. Please reasses your outlook and become a student again. I also have competed in many TKD tournaments, I have won, and yes I have lost. Loosing more than I have won. These tournaments are not fights, they are a simple test of your abilities and a barometer of your training weekness. As for your co-worker, at the moment he is controlling you, and your emotions, because you are letting him do so. You can not change him, you can only change yourself, his ignorance will be your strength over him. Others share your observations of his behavior, and I am sure they agree with your views. Be humble, be respectful, be wise, get over your negative experience and learn from it. Train hard, play hard, think hard.

:shock: OMG! I'm so glad I posted here!!! thanx all, I have since been doing extra training on me knee and it is getting there just a bit swollen from time to time.
I had and I place my hand on my heart one or two drinks, I don't drink loads only for taste. He has since left me be as I told him that I am not impressed with his attitude anymore, I wanted to know whether other people have ever had that problem? (think Karte Kid :lol: )

Ta

Tansy